#IAmMother - Stories of Motherhood

Thabile’s Story

“What actually makes us who we are and as mothers; it’s basically everything that we go through, everything that we don’t share, like how it felt when you first saw your child, how wonderful and challenging it is to see them grow up.” Listen to her story 

Zandile’s Story

“Mina ngingumama ongenawo umndeni, ngihlala ngedwa ekhaya, so-nje ngibuye ngikudinge nami ukuthi ngikwazi ukukhuluma nomuntu, mhlawumbe ingane yami ingabe igula, ngisuke ngi-lonely anginaye umuntu engizombuza ukuthi ngenzenjani manje. Nje, ziningi izinto ezingenza ukuthi ngibe lonely njengokuthi ngike ngachaza ukuthi mina nobaba womntwanami sesihlukene, so nje ukuba umzali, ngifila lonely ngaleso sikhathi ngoba kahle kahle akekho anginayo i-support.” Listen to her story 

Thando’s Story

“We love ourselves and we do take care of it but the thing is, we don’t have much access in clinics to [get] prevention. In our clinics, the nurses are not [very] friendly, they’re too likely to judge too much and privacy actually – we don’t have that privacy.” Listen to her story 

Eunice’s Story

“Ukuthi ngicela ukuthi sizinakekele kakhulu lezi zingane, siziphe kakhulu uthando. Ngani? Ngoba zitholakala zona zithanda ukuba nenkinga kubazali bazo …” Listen to her story 

Nomvula’s Story

“Ngalendlela yokuthi uthola ukuthi i-bond phakathi kwabo naye isiyakhula kakhulu. Ngisho noma ngabe siyahamba siya ezinkonzweni, uyangilekelela ekuphatheni umntwana, uyamphatha umntwana, sishintshisane ngaye endleleni. So, ube wusizo olukhulu ngalendlela eyisimanga umyeni wami …” Listen to her story…

Sane’s Story

“… but watching her, how she raises her and also how she communicates with me as the mother, that on its own just makes me appreciate everything that she has done for me …” Listen to her story…

Agrineth’s Story

“Babika noma yini, siyazwana nabo ngohlobo oluyisimangaliso, bawusizo futhi kakhulu kimina nami ngiyabasiza, bangithatha njengodadewabo noma benezinkinga nje, ngibonga lokho nje. …” Listen to her story…

Alpha’s Story

“Our stuff, our problems help other people because they are going through that road and this road can be healed with us women as we share. We heal one another. …” Listen to her story…

Nwabisa’s Story

“Today ndiyiteacher yasepre-school I have my level 5 because of her, wathi msapha umntana ndiza kumkhulisa, wena hamba iya esikolweni uyofunda. I’ve got a career now I’m a teacher I want to have my degree so that I could go to primary school and be a teacher there, she was the best to me …” Listen to her story…

Thabisa’s Story

“But when you do your research, when you talk to other mothers, when you try to share your story with other people it seems like you are so relieved. It’s like the package has been like off-loaded to you.” Listen to her story…

Lindiwe’s Story

“Everyone was excited to have a granddaughter at home. It’s the second granddaughter. So everyone was happy and then we said Sinovuyo. So we were all happy.” Listen to her story…

Cindy’s Story

“He understands when I say “I need space; can you hold him for me?” And he volunteers to do things that I think that other men wouldn’t necessarily want to do like wash nappies with poo. And yeah, it was also just like in terms of during the birthing process, it is like he was… I feel like it was like a real hero just like playing a supportive role.” Listen to her story…

Patricia’s Story

“And when the mother becomes so depressed and so tired, when it comes to that, when a child is crying, you will become more anxious and more sad, then you feel like you want to give up. But if we had that support as mothers, it will be, like, easier… ” Listen to her story…

Shana’s Story

“I think people are not equipped to handle mother’s emotions and if we had support groups… just readily available, because a lot of the women that are suffering can’t pay for any of these things and if we had support groups, or just places where women could go and say, “I’m a mom, this is how I feel” and there were trained people to deal with it… I think that would help a lot.” Listen to her story…

Philippa’s Story

“When my little one comes and he gives me a hug or a kiss, when my oldest son just says “mommy, come here” and he gives me a big hug for no reason at all, or they say thank you to me. When my daughter helps me with my writing and reading and critiques me.” Listen to her story…

Jessica’s Story

“I think as a non-mom or someone who is yet to be a mom, there is a lot of power in that you can offer so much coming from a space of that you have no prejudice of experience.” Listen to her story…

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