I have learned that to raise the child is not only for the mother – the father also needs a chance to raise the children because there was one instance, we had a quarrel with my husband and then my daughter wrote a letter that said “Mom can you please give me my father the last chance?” Then I realised that she’s close to me, but she also loved her father as well. It’s not always about me alone for raising her. So she has that feeling: “I need to have these parents; both of them, so I have to fight to have them both.” So I’ve realised that I have failed my daughter because I was so stressed. I just told myself that I will just raise my children alone. He must just leave me alone not knowing that the children will need to have the father and the mother at the same time. It’s not always about having the mother alone.
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Photographing the story telling circles has been more than just a job for me or another photography booking. It definitely had me questioning my relationship with my mother and got me thinking about it actively and how I can be a better daughter and assist her where I can. I totally related with some of the stories shared, further solidifying the fact that you do not have to give birth in order to understand mothers or be a mother. The circles has allowed me to redefine what being a mother is entirely. I definitely want to host a circle with my aunts, cousins, mom, gran and the rest of the matriarchs in the Mkosi family to have similar conversations.