#IAmMother - Stories of Motherhood

Listen to her story

I think as mothers, we need to form support groups in our community whereby we can talk about our struggle of being a mother. Whether you’re a single mother or you have your partner like who is supporting you or your family because… why? Because I’m saying that is because more especially us Xhosa people say we don’t have much to sit down and talk about how we feel about being a mother. I don’t see that we support each other, all we do is judge. I think we can have support groups, we can have like we can go online try to research more because, when you look at it, it seems like it’s a huge thing. But when you do your research, when you talk to other mothers, when you try to share your story with other people it seems like you are so relieved. It’s like the package has been like off-loaded to you. I think praying, working together as mothers, support groups intended that like could work even if you went to a clinic. There they would have sessions about how to care about your child supporting each other, we share those problems, we would solve our problems. Like sisterhood thing. I think that’s for me like supporting each other.

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Andy Mkosi

Photographing the story telling circles has been more than just a job for me or another photography booking. It definitely had me questioning my relationship with my mother and got me thinking about it actively and how I can be a better daughter and assist her where I can. I totally related with some of the stories shared, further solidifying the fact that you do not have to give birth in order to understand mothers or be a mother. The circles has allowed me to redefine what being a mother is entirely. I definitely want to host a circle with my aunts, cousins, mom, gran and the rest of the matriarchs in the Mkosi family to have similar conversations.


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