I have learnt that to raise the child is not only for the mother – the father also needs a chance to raise the children because there was one instance, we had a quarrel with my husband and then my daughter wrote a letter that said “Mom can you please give me my father the last chance?” Then I realized that she’s close to me, but she also loved her father as well. It’s not always about me alone for raising her. So she has that feeling: “I need to have these parents; both of them, so I have to fight to have them both.” So I’ve realized that I have failed my daughter because I was so stressed. I just told myself that I will just raise my children alone. He must just leave me alone not knowing that the children will need to have the father and the mother at the same time. It’s not always about having the mother alone.
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